Sex With Emily

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they’re not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, judgment-free conversations about sex. I also take live questions from a caller who’s navigating dating transparency, emotional boundaries, and how to communicate clearly without rushing intimacy. This episode originally aired as a live stream, and I’m so excited to bring it to you as a podcast- real talk, real questions, and practical tools to help you feel more connected, confident, and open in your sex life.

ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT:
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WANT MORE?
Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.
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Chapters:
00:00 Fantasies Are Not What You Think


01:16 How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure


02:45 Creating A No Judgment Space


04:33 What A Fantasy Actually Is


05:54 The Fear Of Talking About Sex


07:05 Why We Stay Quiet About What We Want


08:09 Different Areas of Fantasies


10:23 What We’re Really Craving


11:20 How To Bring It Up Without Making It Awkward


12:38 Desire, Control, & Trying New Things



16:47 When Two People Are Moving At Different Speeds


18:10 Getting To Know Your Own Desire First


20:54 Caller: Dating Honestly Without Overthinking It


23:49 How To Ask “What Are We?” In A Natural Way


26:55 Being Honest Without Putting Pressure


29:47 Timing Sex & How to Know When It Feels Right
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In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m answering your real, unfiltered questions, covering everything from casual sex and whether it’s actually right for you, to performance anxiety and what really happens to your sex life after the honeymoon phase ends. We get into how to talk to your partner about things like blood flow and stress playing a bigger role in arousal than you think, and how to reignite connection when sex starts to feel routine or less frequent. I also break down why scheduling sex isn’t boring- It’s actually one of the most powerful tools for long-term intimacy! Also,  solo pleasure can support (not replace) your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered “is this normal?” when it comes to your sex life… this episode is for you.



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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily



WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

 

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Chapters:


00:00 Introduction to the LIVE


01:10 Let’s Talk Sex Without the Awkwardness


02:32 When Casual Sex Just Doesn’t Feel Right


03:06 Caller Question: Feeling Weird or Guilty About Viagra


05:04 How to Bring It Up With Your Partner


06:13 The Pressure Guys Feel in Bed


07:25 Expectations & Real Talk


08:01 Blood Flow & What’s Actually Going On


09:18 New Fixes: Shockwave Therapy


10:28 Caller Question: Why Sex Slows Down


11:30 The Honeymoon Phase Is Over… Now What?


12:48 Keeping Things Fun & Exciting


14:02 Finding the Best Time for Sex


31:13 Why You Gotta Prioritize Your Sex Life
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I know what you're thinking. Missionary? Really? But hear me out,  because I genuinely believe missionary might be the most underrated position in existence, and the reason most people are bored by it has nothing to do with the position itself. It has everything to do with what they're not doing in it.

In this episode, I'm breaking down every missionary myth, sharing the techniques that actually work for clitoral stimulation during penetration, and answering your listener's questions on everything from G-spot orgasms to asking your partner to bend you over the kitchen table.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why the porn version of penetrative sex works for only about 30% of vulva owners and what the rest of us actually need to get there, including the CAT technique that makes missionary the best position for clitoral stimulation

 • How to tell your partner you want them to dominate you, talk dirty, and bring more intensity to sex without making them feel like they've been doing it wrong this whole time

 • Why incorporating a vibrator into partnered sex is one of the best things you can do for your sex life, and how to ask for it even if you're a people pleaser who's spent years putting everyone else's comfort before your own pleasure



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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:03 - What's Actually Great About Missionary (That Most People Miss)

5:26 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Is Boring

8:21 - The CAT Technique: Best Missionary Position for Clitoral Stimulation

9:29 - Listener Question: Mental Block Around Trying New Positions

13:15 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Can't Be Kinky

13:28 - Listener Question: How to Ask Your Partner to Be More Dominant

18:27 - Dispelling the Myth That Vulva Owners Can't Orgasm in Missionary

19:02 - Listener Question: Clitoral vs. Penetrative Orgasms & the G-Spot Explained

23:32 - Listener Question: How to Use a Vibrator During Missionary Without the Bulk

26:06 - A Note to People Pleasers: Your Pleasure Matters Too
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In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating. 



ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 



CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily



WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 



Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the LIVE

01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions

01:49 Valentine’s Day & 21 Years of Podcasting

02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together

04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained

05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym? 

06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses

07:53 Is This Normal?  

09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching 

10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships

12:38 What is Compersion?

14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym

18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships

21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool)

23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors)

24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner

27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan

28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More
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I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time.

Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them.



In this episode, you'll learn:

 • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste

 • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood

 • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth



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More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker?

11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs

13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy

18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters

19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings?

27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners

33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up?

36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating

42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex
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