Sex With Emily

If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it.

In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past

• What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have

• How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks



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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

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Chapters:

0:00 - Introduction

0:55 - How to Tell If Someone's Into You

6:01 - Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date

9:38 - When You're Surprised by Your Partner's Body During Sex

16:20 - Should You Act on Your Partner's Fantasy?

18:55 - Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido

22:35 - Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship

26:47 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame
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If the idea of FaceTime sex makes you want to immediately close your laptop and never speak of it again, I get it — but hear me out. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, traveling, or just looking to try something new with a partner you see every day, virtual sex is one of the most underrated tools for keeping intimacy alive. And when you do it right, it's genuinely hot.

In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to know — from the practical setup to what to actually say — so it stops feeling awkward and starts feeling like real sex.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to actually set up, prepare, and get in the mood before the call — including the one thing you can do beforehand that builds confidence and arousal at the same time

• What to say during FaceTime sex, even if dirty talk doesn't come naturally to you — plus how to use past memories, future fantasies, and simple direction to keep things moving

• How to handle it when your partner's virtual kinks don't match yours, when sexting with someone outside your relationship starts bleeding into your real one, and how to know when a sexting session is actually over



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• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:48 - Who Benefits from Virtual Sex (Long-Distance, Couples & Singles)

3:34 - Sending Nudes: Risks, Consent & Generational Differences

6:51 - Safety First: Platforms, Boundaries & Mutual Consent

8:01 - The Power of Foreplay Before You Go Live

10:58 - How to Pull Off FaceTime Sex: Prep, Setup & Device Tips

16:16 - Dirty Talk & What to Actually Say in the Moment

20:06 - Q&A: How to Spice Up Virtual Sex

22:07 - Q&A: Navigating Kinks You're Not Into

26:44 - Q&A: How Does a Sexting Session Actually End?

28:28 - Q&A: Is Sexting Outside My Marriage Cheating?
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Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral.



In this episode, you'll learn:

• The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected

• How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire

• What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter to make sure your needs actually get met — and how to navigate hooking up within a friend group without blowing everything up



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• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - What Makes Casual Sex Satisfying?

1:43 - Defining Casual Sex (It's Not Just Hookup Culture)

3:59 - Surprising Research: Casual Sex Trends by Generation

5:44 - The Benefits of Casual Sex

8:23 - The Downsides & Risks to Know

10:37 - How to Know If Casual Sex Is Right for You

12:20 - How to Find & Communicate With Casual Partners

17:51 - Best Casual Sex Advice From Dr. Emily's Audience

20:12 - Listener Q&A: Orgasming Through Oral Sex

23:46 - Listener Q&A: Casual Sex After a Long-Term Relationship

27:06 - Listener Q&A: Shame & Regret After a Hookup
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If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying.



In this episode, you'll learn:

• What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling

• My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start)

• What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a conservative upbringing can shut down your erotic imagination, and how to gently rebuild it



More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:47 - The Most Common Fantasies (Group Sex, BDSM, Voyeurism & More)

3:50 - Listener Fantasy List: What YOU Shared on Instagram

6:12 - How to Bring Up a Fantasy to Your Partner (The Who, What, Where, When, Why Method)

8:24 - Fantasy vs. Fetish: What's the Difference?

9:09 - Caller Update: Tracy's Throuple Story

15:44 - "Is It Wrong to Fantasize About Someone Else While in a Relationship?"

17:33 - How to Find a Couple for a Threesome

20:32 - Latex Fetish & Pegging: How to Get Your Partner on Board

24:12 - How to Make the First Move Without Falling into the Friend Zone

28:26 - Foot Fetishes 101: How to Blow His Mind

31:03 - When Trauma Blocks Your Fantasy Life
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If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life.

SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process.

In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise.



In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight

• How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think)

• The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get off antidepressants entirely



More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.



Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

0:31 - Sarah's Story: The SSRI Sex Drive Dilemma

3:50 - Why SSRIs Kill Your Libido (The Science)

6:50 - How Common Is This? Depression & Sex Stats

14:00 - Side Effects Breakdown: Vulva vs. Penis Owners

15:50 - Practical Hacks: Timing, Alcohol & Cannabis

20:53 - Alternative Treatments: TMS, Ketamine & Psychedelics

25:31 - Both Partners on SSRIs? How to Rebuild Intimacy

31:58 - The 36 Questions Study That Reignites Closeness

33:37 - Perimenopause, Hormones & Anti-Depressants at 48
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